Every parent's worst nightmare is hearing or seeing that their child is hurt or in danger. What is even worse is when that danger is a result of a parent's involvement in that child's life.
When it is your family in danger, there should never be a question about whether or not you can get a restraining order. A restraining order is intended to protect you from harm or harassment. It can stop the abuser from coming to where you live or your place of work.
Divorce can be a respectful, cost-effective and relatively low-stress process. It can also be a contentious, adversarial and expensive war between two people who can't stand one another. Ultimately, the choice is up to you and your spouse. If both sides of your marriage are capable of being reasonable, respectful and fair, it will do a lot to ease tensions during the marital breakup. When it comes to divorcing parents, however, they also need to think about reducing the chances of conflict after their divorce, as they will be raising their children together as co-parents for many years to come.
A balanced and loving relationship requires a little bit of give and take. In other words, both sides of the relationship are willing to compromise. If one side of the relationship is unwilling to compromise -- forcing the other to roll over and submit -- the submitting party will eventually grow resentful. This can grow into blowout fights, a loss of communication and eventually the breakdown of the relationship.